Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Me and my girl friend love each other very much and want to spend the rest of our lives together, but i have to change. I dont think. I dont think about her some times. I just do stuff. Like, she aked me for directions and i gave here the wrong exit and she got lost. I didnt even put forth the time to check to see if i was wrong or not. I do this stuff all the time, somtimes i make her feel underapreciated and i hurt her that way. And it realy hurts me that i cant stop and think, you cant do that to people you love. She says i have to fix this fast because she has one foot out the door. This is my last chance. please help.
I don't think you can fix this by yourself.
Once we have a habit like that, it takes someone else to help overcome it.
This will have to be her, if she is willing to. She will need to ask you to confirm everything important that you say to her. This will be tough on her and you both.
You are right, this problem really needs to be solved. You can help yourself while she is helping. Pay attention to everything you think and say and ask if it passes the test you want it too.
Hope this helps! George
-- from George
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