I'm in love!
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Long story short: I am truly, madly, deeply in love with a friend of mine who already has a boyfriend. I want to tell her how i feel, but i don't want to ruin the relationship we already have. i'm in so deep I could actually write an "8-page novel" about how i feel about her, but in the end, I just want her to be happy, no matter how much it may kill me. it's obvious that she wouldn't leave this guy for me in a million years. I'm just so confused. why can't i find a way to confess my feelings whithout ruining our friendship? why is it that the one thing i want more than anything else in the world, i can't have? why is it that i finally find the girl i've literaly dreamed of all my life, and she's off limits? I'm aware of the fact you could never truly help me with this problem but any kind of advice would be greatly appreciated.
You don't want to tell her you are madly and deeply in love with her.
You are right, this could have negative consequences on your relationship.
The best I can suggest is to tell her that you don't want to harm your relationship but you want to be open with her and tell her you are "developing feelings" for her. You may have to stretch the truth and tell her that your feelings aren't very strong yet.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com