what should i believe
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My b/f and I have been together for two years. All of a sudden, some guy started instant messaging me that I did not know whatsoever. My man kept pursuading me to im this guy, told me that when I did it, it made him feel better about me, thought I was more beautiful, and it made him work harder towards the relationship. I did it for him, but now hes getting really really jealous over that. I spent some time with a girl friend of mine who confessed that she likes women, too, and he thought I was cheating with this woman, in which, im completely heterosexual.
Anyway, it snowed really bad last night, and I am scared to drive in it, but I drove to see him anyway. I wanted to surprise him. I called his phone, he didnt answer. I emailed him back, and he didnt answer. As a matter of fact, he told me that I have him blocked, and he cant get through, which is not true. I was busy yesterday and did not have the opportunity to answer his emails, I went and had a flower order made for him for valentines day to be sent out today. Anyway, he told me that tonight he needs to be alone, and I need to respect that. The crazy part about it is that he was away from me last night, and the night before. He hasnt been saying anything to me except by emails and instant messages. He even told me that some other woman at work is causing him problems, telling him that she is going to take his job if he doesnt flirt with her. However, now this same woman is being really nice to him, and is no longer doing this to him. Last night, he told me that he was going to send instant messages to her all night. He ignored me all night long. He keeps threatening to sleep with her and to do things with her. He used to do things with me, and now he isnt doing anything with me. He told me he wanted to marry me, and he no longer feels that way. He told me he found a dress to marry me in, and he sent me the link. However, when I went back to my message archive, he never sent me anything.
My question is this: I think that hes the one sending the ims that are supposedly from another guy, because they are his style of writing. Do you think that he is with this other girl, and do you think that he is playing with my emotions really really bad?
Everything indicates that he is not only playing with your emotions but also playing around.
You spelled out all the clues that would lead one to believe that he is up to something.
You need to have a long, gentle, affectionate talk with him and get to the bottom of all of this.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com