Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have a problem that needs a quick and helpful advice. I'm in a relationship with a guy. We are together for almost half a year, but recently we discovered that we have got to the stage when we dont get that thrill we used to and that things we do dont give us so much excitement as in the begining. I myself understand that this happens when relationship mature and get to the other level, but for him to understand and get used to it gets very difficult. Besides, try a lot to make our relationship as interesting as I can by trying to surprise him and stuff, but he just has this mood swings, like one day everything is perfect and the other day he thinks of a break up, now we are in a kind of trial time (we decided not to see each other for a week in hope it will help us to improve our relationship). We are both busy and face a lot of stress while studying and getting ready for exams and stuff. I guess this can be one of the reasons we got cold and besides not long ago my boyfriend went on a month trip, so I didnt see him for a whole month, though we kept in touch everyday and he says that that month effected him a lot because after it he noticed those changes in our relationship. I dont know, but I put really a lot in improving this relationship, keeping it and making him happy, but his mood swings and seeing his unhappy face now makes me think if it wouldnt be best to break up. We are both lost, though we still have strong feelings for each other, love each other a lot and intimate life is perfect... Would be really greatful for any advice. Thank you
My advice is to see a professional counsellor to help you with this.
Your relationship is taking twists and turns too quickly to be dealt with through the internet. You need someone who can keep track of what is going on and help you through it.
Perhaps your school offers such services.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com