Want more than friendship

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
hi my name is nicholas and i want to tell about my feelings for this girl i like named isabelle.

i first met her in 2004 at a church youth group, i remember it like it was yesterday. i got there heaps early and about 10 mins later this beautiful girl walk through the door and she smiles at me, and instantly i fell in love with her.

however i was always the shy one and i didn't even properly talk to her until December the 2nd 2005.

ok now getting to the point. in 2006 october 20 i asked her to my formal and she said yes and we had a wonderful time.
however i was really nervous when it came to walking her back to the door. i was going to kiss her on the cheek because i wanted to take it slow but instead i give her this really quick and strange hug that made us feel both awkward.
(im not sure if she was affended by that)

she then 3 weeks later went on exchange for 3 months to france. i asked her if i could stay in contact with her and so she gave me her email.

i sent her at least one email a week and talked to her on msn maybe 2 or 3 times a month. but any way she had just left and i wanted to send her something for christmas something i put together myself. i did and the thing i made for her is this:

i put a cd together with songs indicating i like her and a nice poem about each song. (well i cant wright very well cause im in the bottom english class but it was nice)
but thats not all i did you know when u buy a cd it comes with a little booklet, well i made her one those to.

i show what i did.

song list:

Track Name artist

1. Roller coaster Blink-182
2. Whats my age? Blink-182
3. Khe Sahn jimmy barnes
4. Beautiful alex lloyd
5. My happiness Powder finger
6. wonderwall Oasis
7. I miss you Blink-182
8. Out of my mind james blunt
9. Yellow coldplay
10. Chasing cars snow patrol
11. The day you come powderfinger
12. Time of your life green day
13. Beautiful day U2


I remember
The first time
I called you,
It took,
Sooo much strength!

I did it, and
I took you out,
On a Friday night.

You are,
Sooo special!
Sooo beautiful!
I see you, I feel warmth,
Im lifted to heaven.

You are,
“My Happiness!”
“My Wonderwall!”
How can you be there
When I need you here.

You are,
The voice inside my head!
“I miss you,”
Sooo much!
Im going “out of my mind.”

Im writing a song for you,
About all the things you do,
And it is called,
(yellow) ???

The day you come,
I promise!
I will take you out again!
But for the meantime,
I hope you have,
“the time of your life.”

Merry Christmas Isabelle,
Enjoy this day while it last,
Because it is,
A very special!
A very beautiful!

thats it i don't if it is even nice or romantic but i sent to her for christmas and she said she liked it and it was very nice of me to do that for her.
now im thinking to myself "yes she really really liked it and apart of her might actually like me."

now in 2007 she just got back from france and on feburary 2 she called me and said "i have to say something nick, you are a really nice boy. but i don't really want to be in a relationship with you because im afraid that the frienship may be destroyed. (theres was then no talking for about 20 secs) and i really also have to thinking about my work because im in year 11 now and so are you and i dont want to do this. but please dont be hurt we can still hang out as friends... if you want" i said yes we can still be friends.

but i want to be more than friends and i told her thinkin about her work is the right thing to do but now im afraid that she will never give me a chance to be her protector
and i love her so much i cant stop the crying. im afraid please help me i really really need to be with her

just like the rules say i'll tell u that im 17 and she 16 to date

RomanceClass.com Advice
Yes, you are in an unhappy situation and your misery is understandable.

But think how much worse it could be. At least she wants to continue to be your friend and who knows where that will lead.

Be happy for this golden opportunity. Of course, this is not what you want... you want more.

Be patient and good things may come! George

-- from George
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