I send out very mixed signals
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I was recently on a date with a guy I knew in high school. Almost everything he did on the date would fall under the "he is definetly interested in you" category. I think the way I acted towards him sent out mixed signals. After our date we talked a few times, and each time it gets more brief. I think I seem uninterested and he may think that I dont like him. I never really know what too say so Im pretty quiet, couldnt look him in the eye very much, etc. I was not uninterested, just very shy. I also did not want to come across as desperate or coming on to strong (which is how ive scared guys away in the past, so I tried to be very cautious and almost aloof with how I acted). How would I go about telling/showing him I actually would like to get together again? Any suggestions on how I can reverse what Ive done?
Yes, call him up and ask him out to dinner or a movie.
This will show him you are interested. The next step will be to offer some conversation and not be shy. You are generally on safe ground if you just ask him questions about his life... where he was born, where did his parents come from, are his grandparents living and where, does he have siblings. What are his favorite sports and teams? There are thousands of questions and topices to talk about. Just force yourself to do it so you get over your shyness.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com