How can I get her back? Should I want her back?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Person
When I was about 12 there was this girl that I had been friends with since we were 3 and I really liked her, so one day when we were playing a 'blind man's buff', I touched her bum (using the blindfold as an excuse). The next time I did it again, and again, etc. Our relationship got stronger and stronger but she always wanted to keep it secret. At the height of it I was fingering her, touching her breasts and bum under her clothes, kissing her, we did just about everything outside actual sexual intercourse.
We only actually went out once, most of the time it was at my house or hers.
I started feeling guilty about touching her so much, etc. and not talking as much as I used to, so I told her on an online messenger. She thought I wanted to break up (I didn't) and was initially upset, but we sorted it out. Later, she told me SHE wanted to break up, but the next time I met her she let me touch her and she touched me as well.
It all just disintegrated though. She now makes sure we are never alone together, and speaks to me angrily on messengers, calling me a pervert.
We never formally broke up but this happened when we were about 14.
I am now 15 and I still love her and I feel that I would be able to resist touching her if she didn't want me to.
However, it is difficult for me to talk to her alone and I don't think she'd want to start going out again if I asked. Help! Please!
Try being straightforward and honest with her.
Tell her you still love her and that you feel you can resist touching her if that's what she wants.
Given your history with her recently it is unlikely she will accept your offer but it's worth a try. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com