Whats my move?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
There is a girl I have been hanging with for a while now, maybe 3-4 months. We have been friends for about 5 years(good freinds with her close relative), but it wasn't until 3 or 4 months ago we started hanging out together. We hangout 3-4 times a week. Just about everyday I get a call or text, telling me to call her if we are going do something that night. We always go hangout with my friends and she always seems to have a good time (she tells me at the end of the night usually). When we first started hanging together, she would flirt, wrap her arms around me, pretty much always touching me. BUT, she is a flirty person, so I try not to read too much into it.
She has told me about all of her past bfs and why they broke up. The past few times she came out with us, she has been showing less affection, and giving other guys more attention, which is causing me to get jealous, I dont want to be, but it is happening. Also on the ride home she has been quiet the last two nights, not saying much, sitting there just playing with her hair. Usually we talk the whole way to her house. Something seems different now. SHe seems more interested in one of my freinds than me now. Most of her friends are guys, but they dont go out nearly as much as we do. I always buy her drinks, and never let her pay for anything, and try to pick her up at her house as often as possible(so she can drink what she wants and doesnt have to drive).
Sometimes I think there is something there, but the majority of the time I think we are just friends, im never really optomistic about anything, which is the same in this case. I get the feeling sometimes that Im being used, or atleast mislead. She has told my friends that we are in love, jokingly I assume, and has told me more than once that she loves me, jokingly and not so jokingly. Another thing, I went meet her and her parents at a local bar, at the end of the night, her mom told me thanks for coming and that I had her(daughters) night. Shes pretty close to her parents, and we get along great(the parents and I).Well thats the short of it, any advice on what to do, or not to do from here would be helpful. thanks in advance.
The big problem is that you haven't asked her out.
Obviously she likes you and maybe a lot. But without some good feedback from you she is going to get depressed about you and stop interacting with you as much.
Ask her out for dinner at a nice restaurant and lead the conversation around to relationships and your's in particular. My guess is that she will respond with enthusiasm. Give it a try.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com