we broke up, are back together, but i dont know how to deal with my parents
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
hi. i hope you can help me. me and my boyfriend of 8 months were having some problems, and he thought we should break up. we did and it wasent pretty. i was very upset for 2 days crying all the time. when i finally came to the angry stage, i told my parents what happened, making him seem like the bad guy. a couple days ago at school we ran into each other. i was in a corner crying at lunch and he just happened to want to sit in the same place. when he found me he hugged me and i cried for a long time. then we ended up talking things out and now we have a much better understanding of each other and a better respect for each other. it feels right going back out with him. i love him more than anything. i cant really stand being without him. my parents dont seem to understand and they wont leave me alone. they keep giving me reasons why i shouldnt be with him and i feel they might force me to break up with him. i dont want too. i want to be the one making my own decisions about what i should and should not do. i want things back to the way things used to be. with my parents. im tired of them trying to control the relationship. how can i tell them to stop and that i know what im doing? i know their just trying to help but. me and my boyfriend are old enough to know whats best for us. they should stay out of it. please help me here. thank you
One of your parents is probably less upset than the other. If they are equally upset talke with your mother.
Otherwise, talk with your dad. Get one of them alone and explain to them that you are trying to find out what is best for you and right now you want to be with your b/f. Tell them that you feel comfortable working on this problem yourself and that if you need their help you will ask them for it.
Above all, keep your cool and don't get into a fight with your parents. Treat them pleasantly and present your point of view calmly. It's not easy to do but important. They will respect you for it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com