Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have a guy friend that I gave up a lot of things and friends for, and I think he's made me a better person. We have been sleeping together for months now, but I keep thinking he is cheating on me. We have both stated that we are being monogomous to each other and that we are being completely honest with one another, but I'm not. Last night I thought he was in a bed with two other girls and I got drunk and went to sleep with his friend in another room. I knew exactly what i was doing, and I knew it was wrong but my feelings were hurt and I was drunk. I cheated on him with the very guy he claims I still "like" but I don't like the guy. I just slept with him out of spite. I woke up this morning and felt guilty, I cleaned his house and everything but he called me and made me feel worse about it. He can easily ask the guy if we slept together, but I don't know how I'm supposed to keep it a secret because now that I've lied to him, I can't take it back. I really like this guy, but we're not technically dating because he is much older than me. I need to know if I should just keep denying everything, because if tell him the truth I really think it would break his heart, because his ex did the same thing to him. I don't want to be the type of untrustworthy person that I feel like. What do I do?
Unfortunately you are an untrustworthy person right now.
If you try to keep this a secret and go on seeing him it will end up being like a festering sore.
My advice is to tell him the truth no matter how much it might hurt him and you both. You owe him the truth.
Good luck and Happy Holidays! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com