Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Here is my question..I have been going out with a girl for 3 months..She is 26 and I am 30...We are totally in love !
She lives with a girl who is 23 and totally is dependent on her socially...I live an hour away from her and my apartment is extremely convenient to her job much more so than hers...Twice in the last month the roommate has made comments such as, "I would like to know all your plans", "When you hang out with the "crew of friends" I dont feel as comfortable" and "as long as youre home 4 of 7 nights of the week Im fine...
This girl wants to know almost every move my g/f makes..When confronted she agrees to take a step back and accept the change but something seems to always come up when we are in square again..
She is 7 years younger than me and has NEVER had a b/f....She has a horrible attitude towards most people and although she has never verbally attacked me, I dont feel comfortable around her unless its in a group of people...My g/f is frustrated and has done her best, I am just at a loss..
I am 30 and dont want to deal with 23 year old BS !
Do you have any comments on this girls attitude ? What needs to be done ? Am I wrong for feeling frustration
Tune her out.
Ask your g/f to say "yes" to most of her roommates comments and then ignore them. If she wants to know where she is going, she should tell her in a few brief sentences. Comments about 4 of 7 nights should be rejected out of hand, either by ignoring them or straight out disagreeing with them.
My advice is to let this 23 yr old squawk as much as she wants so long as it does not affect what you and your g/f do. If your g/f can't take the grief, then the two of you should find a place 1/2 way between and live together.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com