G/F just wont say its over or make contact
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I have been in a r/ship for 6 months now. The women 36,is married and living with an estranged husband.Neither can afford separate house. We saw each other 1 night a week, two whole days in the week & every lunchtime. It was a very passionate time, and we went on holiday as well. She met an old friend of mine another female early Oct 06(totally platonic-we don't fancy each other). My G/f immediately says after this friend left 'so still sleeping together'. I tried to explain that we have never been an item in 12 years. She doesn't accept you can be friends with a women free from desire. One night about two weeks ago (Nov 2006)we went to dinner, all is well until she accidentally read a text from my platonic friend which said 'my g/f probably can only come out 1 night a week cos hubby is at home that night. Some people have such low moral values etc'. She walked out of the house a little while later and has never responded back to me, even to say goodbye, nothing. OK there is some 'cake & eat it' on her part. There was also an issue recently when she said had we dated a year ago things would be very different i.e. would have left hubby etc. Have texted her, and left a note on car saying sorry but would you like to talk etc? Also texted her to say I didn't send the text, & it was someone else's opinion not mine. Trouble is I know it's not an ideal situation, but nonetheless there lots of feelings for this person. So what if anything can one do? This girl is latino and a temperament to go with it. How long to calm down? Is 12 days of no contact unreasonable? The problem with no closure is you are in limbo not knowing either way. What do you think is the best thing to do?
Send her flowers and dark chocolates.
Include a handwritten note expressing your feelings for her and your desire to meet her for dinner. Explain again that you didn't write the note and that you disagree completely with it.
It is about time for her to get over her anger and she needs your help doing it.
Hope this helps! George
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