Lover to Boyfriend-Girlfriend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
what do i do, i'm in love with my best friend in the whole world, we're sleeping together, and he looks at it as "a friend in need is a friend indeed..." but i look at it as something personal and intimate.
i know i'm the only one he's sleeping with, but how do i tell him it means so much to me, with out losing it, or making our friendship weird? thx for anything you got, i apreciate it. sincerly, confused in love
You guys sort of skipped over some steps there :) But best friends are THE best you can possibly hope for in any boyfriend-girlfriend relationship so you already have what many people dream of having. Now what you want is that "statement of commitment" to go with it, so you know he won't start being romantically involved with someone else.
I have advice about doing this with a "friend" here -
which still does apply to you guys. Just start easing in the romance. Start watching romantic movies with him. Start being a touch more romantic in how you act towards him. Make romantic meals. Go on a B&B weekend together somewhere new and intersting.
Don't go diving into the roses-and-hearts-everywhere stuff. That might scare him that things will be "different". But if you do it gradually, he'll see that you can have the romance without losing the best friends part.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com