AM I WASTING MY TIME?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I was dating my ex boyfriend for about 3 1/2 years before we moved in together - we were super excited about it!! we are very close - spent every weekened together- After moving in, its almost like he became a different person - he got scared - held back and felt like I was invading his 'alone time"- so after only 5 months of living togther he asked me to move out. So I did, so technically we broke up.This was in Jan 06- for the past 10 months we have been hanging out, been intimate , talk and email almpst everyday - hang out all the time- almost every weekend- A year ago we were talking about being engaged and now I dont know whats going on. Im scared im wasting my time but I love him and I know I want to marry him - He tells me hes so indecisive - sometimes he feels lost with out me. What do i do? We dont date other people - I want my title back - im 27 and i dont wanna wait forever - what do i do>>>
Tell him what you told me.
You love him and want to marry him but he has shown that he is not up to it. You are 27 and are worried about wasting your time with him if he isn't the marrying kind. Your experiment with living together failed abysmally and that is a very bad sign for the hopes of marriage. Explain that to him so he better understand where you are coming from.
My hunch is that if you focus on this question he will either put up or shut up. But before marrying him, try living together again.
-- from George
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