I want her back
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
We were in a 6 year relationship that she gave me more love than one could imagine. Depression had taken over my life and changed who I was. I'm dealing with it now and getting better. Our last night together we had a huge argument not physical or anything but she got scared and filed for a restraining order. So it's been a month and I tried to get our mutual friends to talk to her and it only pushes her further away.. She's so angry I caused her to go into financial crisis because of my depression--i was not dependable or responsible like I should of been. She says she still loves me but just can't be with me. How do I get her to see that the old person she fell in love with six years ago is back. We were more than lovers we were best friends. How can I get her to forgive me?
You've really got a hard way to go since she has the restraining order against you.
A good thing to do if you can arrange it is to ask her to allow your to call her once a week for 15 minutes just to see how you two are doing. Be cheerful and no talk about relationships.
If you have no job then get one fast. She needs to see you as a financially responsible person. Get two jobs if you have to. Try to pay her back some money. That should make an impact on her. Even if it is only a little bit, like $25 a week. The more the better.
Act like you can live a straight life and she may come back.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com