Is it really over?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Ive got you answer regarding my ex. You told me that you dont believe in games, i dont believe in it too. I told him that i love him and i want him back and he said that he loves me also, but he doesnt want to get back. this is the real problem, shoul i wait???
This is the email that i wrote before:
Ive been with my ex for 2 years. We really loved each other. He was saying that he would die for me( we are in our late 20's). We had our ups and downs. During the down times, i was saying that our relationship didnt have the future, that he should know what hewants from it( if we gonna get married or not). that what its gonna happen that in few years if we break up,that im only wasting my time with him. He was always telling me that i dont know what its gonna happen. # weeks ago, i said that its gonna be better for us to break up, since this relationship doesnt go anywhere, he didnt want to believe it. He asked me how do i know if he doesnt plan anything in 2 years( after i graduate) . i told him, that i know. So we broke up. After few days i realized that i made huge misteake and i wanted him back, but he doesnt want to do it. He gives me the same reasons that i was telling him before( which he didnt want to accepted before) . He said that he thought about it and that its not me, but its that he doesnt feeling like moving to the next step and he shoul feel it after 2 years. I love him to death and i really want him to get back. The most confusing thing is that he wants to see me, he wants to help me in everything( financially, mentally). He wasnt to know what i am doing. He calls, texts, emails me all the time . he is coming over, and bringing dinners and movies to watch. So he is behaving like we are together but without the relationhsip. I told him thati cant see him anymore and aksed him to stop contacting me, becuase i thing that this is the best way to bring him back. Am i right? What should i do? Please help me...
My advice is to remain friends with him and see if he comes back.
Give it six months and if he still is holding back then it is time to think about dumping him.
With this goal in mind you will probably feel better about the situation.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com