i want to move on
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
B4 my boyfriend and i got together we were friends and he told me he had feelings for his best fiend... from what i can remember he was crazy over her! Now we together and he really loves me, now o'm his best friend and she's 2nd. (proven when i got drunk at a party and cheated on him, told him the next morning and he didn't break up with me coz "he loves me")... anyway now we together and were happy till i finally couldn't take it any more,.. for the fact that he's taking her to his matric dance... y nt me? because we weren't friends when he asked her (we were Fighting)... so now we d8in and she got the dress and everything so my bf won't dump her. I don't understand y she can't use the dress and stuff mext year for her farewell! my HEART is so broken... so broken i cut myself and put scissors to my cheast (no1 knows)... iused to be the always happy and smiling kinda girl, since i got with him i'm constantly in bad moods...
The worst he would talk to her at breaks walk with her to ther gate after school and sometimes in the mornings, so tell me, i have the rite to be mad! this is changing me to a different person... I love him, really. today i said i need space for a week or two to just be myself again and if nothing changes of our i feel , if i feel the need to i'll end it. now that i won't be spending time with him he's gonna go to her!!!!.. what do you advice?
My first advice is to stop cutting yourself and putting scissors to your chest. At age 16 nothing can be that important... even if you think it is. Get help from school, doctor, or parents if you don't improve.
Your immediate job is to get over the matric dance. Can you find someone to go with... maybe you could dance with him? Maybe you could go by yourself and meet up with him. After all, he belongs to you now and you deserve to have him. Of course, he has to spend some time with her since he invited her.
Forget the idea of needing space. What you need is contact with him. Concentrate on that first.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com