Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Alright, I don't know exactly who I'm addressing this to-so I'll just jump right in-hehe!
Um-okay, a year ago I got out of really long relationship and it was very important and hard for me-slowly though I began to get over it and over time I began to become really good friends with a guy that I worked with. He never seemed interested but then all of a sudded we just kind of-clicked like...started going on dates and everything and after about a month we made it official and so it was all good because I was actually feeling things I hadn't felt in awhile and we just fit-like I can't explain it. I felt like at the time that this is what I had been waiting on to save me from everything that happened before. But now, I don't know if it's because I'm constantly comparing him to what I had (YES I KNOW IT'S A HUGE NO NO) Or what, but I feel like I have no faith in him. Like...he's never given me a reason to NOT have faith in him...I just kind of lost hope in love after what happened before. And now I worry all the time about whether I am leading him on or not. Because I question if I really care ALL THE TIME (???I don't know why-you answer that one)And I worry SO MUCH that it's almost become drab to be with him because there's a constant worry in my head that I don't care...or a constant nagging of "this won't work why are you even trying?" and he is falling in love with me. He wants to say I love you-I know he does...but I've knit picked this to death SO MUCH that I don't even know how I feel about him. I'd feel guilty if I said I love you to him because I'm so confused. And the worst thing is I don't get that high anymore. I've beat all my emotions up from WORRY and I have no idea what the stem of my worry was or what I'm really even worrying about...I haven't had time to breath or anything...I'm just...wierd! I have no idea why this is happening and I don't think it's normal-any advice??
You seem very anxious to me and my advice is to see your doctor or a licenses professional counselor to discuss your excessant worrying.
You do have things to worry about, but you are worrying too much and need to get help.
Meanwhile check this out: http://www.emedicinehealth.com/anxiety/article_em.htm
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com