Lots of twist.....Will She Come back?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
(together for a year and 7 months)I want to start of by saying that my girlfreind and I have a difference. Shes a very un-effectionate person, she is not into hugs nor kisses nor cuddling...at least not very often. She enjoys her space very much, She does show affection but not commonly. I on the other hand am a bit the opposite. I enjoy affection and love cuddles and hugs.
This problem makes us clash all the time and we always get into a big argument about it but then it goes away and we have peace for a bunch of weeks. Recently she broke up with me after 3 weeks without arguing about this problem after she came to school very to herself( she wasn't even in the mood to hold my hand). I got foolishly angry and we argued. She said to me she loves me so much but she can't do this anymore. It has been 4 days and i've had an epiphany and I guess I want space myself...I feel like I can do it and like I have the right formula this time. She told me she dosen't want a boyfriend for a long time and shes giving me mixed signals. At school I told her I wanted to hang alone for a while and she told me that I dont need to, that I can stay. I said no and she decided to walk me to where i was going to be. When she walked me there she gave me a very long affectionate kiss on the cheek and rubbed her hand on my chest. Shes going through a problem now with her parents and brother and I'm not sure if I should talk to her or not because I want to make her feel better yet I also want to get back with her. I don't want to call her so much and give her space....I want her back really bad and I apoligize for the amount of words written. I can promise that I know what to do, and I just dont think shes worth losing so quickly. Shes called me once or twice...and she sais she loves me but now refuses to reply it back when I say I love you. What do I do???
She is confused.
It seems both of you want some space but at the same time don't want it.
You two need to have long, honest talks with each other where you share your feelings and give each other affection which everyone needs.
Don't get bogged down with her specific behaviors. It's only been four days so let this play its self out before making any permanent decisions.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com