He has a Girlfreind of 9 years

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I met this guy at work. I must say that he was a nice guy. We always have a talks and always goes to my workstation. He was very sweet to me and cares for me a lot.I know for the fact that he has a girlfreind for nine years because he always tell something about his girl. Last July I have to take off from work and decided not to go back. He knew that i'll be leaving from work and told me that he'll gonna miss me. We exchange e-mail add and msn. So we still have communication even were not officemates. Almost everynight we're chattin at MSN. He always asked me to go out but i always refused to because i know that its wrong and the real reason was that Im falling for him. One night while chatting. He told me that he likes me and loves me. He also said that he dont like tha way im treating him, he thinks i hate him and even asked me why im so mean to him. He asked me if i like him too but i said no and I always see him as a friend but the truth is I do like him and i think love him too. Just a few weeks ago he said that he thought he had a a chance with me and that he was wrong and that we dont need to talk anymore and will delete my contact. He also told me that im bad coz im still talking to him knowing that he has a girlfriend and has a feelings for me. I just said that its nothing and just talking to him as a friend. He also told me that when people at work use to talk to me he stick up for me and say that im a nice person. He asked last chance if i wanna go out with him but still i refused to go out with him. Almost 3 weeks now since the last time we talked and I miss him so much, i always think of me and i can say that i really like him and do love him too. I hurting, i dont know why. Im just telling myself that what I did was right and that I dont want her girl to get hurt. Now, im thinking of sending him an e-mail to say sorry for the way i treated him or not to bother him again and just respect what he said that we dont need to talk anymore. Im always waiting for him in my MSN but it seems that he's not logging in anymore and he might really deleted my contact. Please help me.. what should I do?????

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You are doing the right thing by not contacting him.

He is long distance and has a 9 year relationship with his girlfriend.

Spend your time with guys in your own country and forget this one.

Best wishes! George

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