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Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I am 14 years old and have loved a guy at my school for about 5 years now (he is also 14)...I care about him a lot and reently we have gotten very close. I, all of my friends, some of his friends, and some other mutual people think that he loves me, too. We are not going out but in 2 weeks there will be a 3 - 3 1/2 hour period in which my house will be empty for sure. At this time he will come over to my house because we want to be together. We were talking for a long time about what we wanted to do together sexually and he was VERY firm in his belief that I should decide what I'm comfortable with. We are very close and all and I am very comfortable with him...after a while I proposed sex (safe of course) as well as blowjob, handjob, fingering, etc. He said yes and asked me if I was sure. He said to think a little more about the sex thing, reminding me that I'd be giving it ALL away. I think I'm ready and it would not be my first blowjob, etc. (and he's already gotten a handjob). We talked for a long time but he left the decision open for me. So now I want to know if he's probably just using me and going to become distant after or if this could work out...

Thank you,
Sarah Advice
You are not even going out with this boy. And, you don't trust him to be nice to you after the sex.

This doesn't seem like a good way to have a sexual relationship. It would be better to wait for a boy you love and trust.

Good luck! George

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