I Messed It Up
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have liked this guy for 2 years. Two of my friend said that he told them he would go with me to the next school dance, but instead or being happy, I suddenly became really mean to him, and I could tell he was reallu hurt, but I don't know why I was being so mean! Finally, I got up the guts to ask him to Sadies, then, I guess he would have said yes, but instead, I got cold feet and blew him off. And the dance, we did end up dancing together and had a good time. The next day, I told him I was really sorry for blowing him off, and just wanted to be friends. I didn't to get mixed up with the whole friend-love thing, becuase I really do like him, and just want him to be happy.
However, after I told him I was sorry, and I said some really nice things to him, and I was sorry for being mean to him at first, and everything. But, I think that just made it worse becuase since then, he's being doing lots of things to show how mad he is at me. Like he walks up to me in a group of friends and says hi to everyone but me, or doesnt call me when all our friends are going on a bike ride or whatever.
I'm really hurt, I still do think I love him, and at least want to have the friendship we used to have! I gave him the whole of summer vacation to cool off, and even though I know that I probably have no chance with him no, I do at least want to feel comfortable around him again.
Please, help me. I know he is taking another girl to Homecoming, but I just want to go back to how things used to be.
I just want to get out of this fight!
-hopeless in Michigan
Write him a note and tell him that you messed up and was mean to him. That you don't know why you did it because you liked him a lot. And now you are very, very sorry and want to try to be his friend again.
Say that you don't expect to have a close friendship with him but at least a talking friendship. Ask him to be forgiving and give you another chance. Give him some ways to contact you... telephone etc.
Ask him to be kind and forgive you. Maybe he will.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com