i want himVisitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My bf just broke up with me last night because he was forced to make a decision whether he's going to the states or not by his long term relationship girlfriend in their country. He broke up with me and decided not to go to the states to be with me, instead he wants to stay in the philippines with his gf. he said the situation was getting worst and he has to make a decision now. He know what's the best for his future, which is getting an education and getting a job here in the states but instead he choose to stay in the philippines with that gal. He has been wanting to go to the states, moreover, his family support him but outa nowhere he gave me this final decision for not going to the states and he said his gf needs him more now. I just dont know what to do to that because he's been the one who was telling me to be strong and keep fighting for what we have even only 4 months. Now, it seems like he doest love me at all. I want him back. He always have trouble making a decision plus his gf is holding him back and he said that he doesnt want to leave his comfort zone, which is his family, friends and gf in the philippines. While in the states, he has me, new friends, life, future. He admitted that he scared but he knows thats the best choice for him. Please help me. I've been helping him to come here and there are ways but he cancelled it just like that. I dont want to loose him. i want him back with me. what should i do?
Before you try to do anything, keep in mind that you may never get him back. And if you did get him back he might be unreliable.
What seems important to him now is his "comfort zone." When you contact him tell him you still care for him but that you are not desperate. Think of things that will make the states a comfort zone for him. Tell him how he can make more money and visit his friends and family in the Phillipines. He could also afford to bring his parents to the states for a visit.
But then also think that if he changed his mind, he might do it again. And who need someone who can't make up their mind on something this important.
You would probably be wise to try to forget him and find someone new.
Good luck! George
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