He gives me mixed signals
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 3 years and everything was great. For the last few months thought he'll get mad at me for stupid things like calling to see if he wants to do lunch. He says that if he wants to talk to me then he'll call me and otherwise I shouldn't call him. Plus if he's out and promises to call me back he doesnt and says he was too busy to even spend 2 mins on the phone to say he was busy and couldnt talk. But when we do get together he's always happy and tries to cheer me up. We used to have great communication but now it seems like he doesnt care about my feelings and when I bring it up he'll get mad again and say I should just understand he's too busy to spend time with me or talk to me and when he has time he'll call me. How can I make him understand that by not keeping promises and getting mad if I ask him to hang out really hurts me? He doesnt seem to understand.
If he is an incredibly high pressure job or has a demanding boss, you might try to feel sorry for him and work to relieve those pressures when you see him.
On the other hand if it's just a job he may be putting the pressure on himself. In that case, you might suggest he get professional counseling.
Lastly, he may be falling out of love with you and this is how he shows it. You can find out by having long honest conversations with him.
Good luck to you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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