Jealous and envious of time
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Well i thought this would be odd asking about love advice in a online game, but i searched your sight to find anything of the sort. This person i met is really amazing and i really do love her, shes great to be around, great to talk to, and everything. I really have alot of trust in her and we thought about meeting before, which she canceled because she was afraid i would not like her.
Ok but down to the main stuff, known her for atleast more then 6 months now and in the game, we did have a fake marriage and the situation is lately shes been spending alot of time with another man in game, im jealous of all the time we dont get to spend and the small window she has to play the game, spends a majority of the time with the other person for well experience points. The thing is i told her i was jealous and envious but i also almost went to far asking her to spend less time with the other person. She thinks of as a way of me being controlling telling her what she can and can not do, which is the problem. Of all the time she spends with the other person she says theres limited talking and shes just using him. However on weekedays and weekends i feel neglected because, of all the hours she plays, i barely get to talk to her unless shes with me and thats only a small fraction of the time she plays.
I tried to compromise saying please atleast take a break from it or id help find other ways for her to get what she wants without her being with him too much. I can't ask another person not to see anyone else, i have no right, but if i don't say anything, nothing will change. I can't join in on her activities, and she denies me listening in their conversations which i told her would relieve me of my insecurities. I don't believe ill ever be happy as long as shes with the other person, but i have been trying to bear it on some occastions. I cannot however do it all the time and her desires in the game will require a few months of time that we dont get to see eachother much. My thinking is how is our relationship more important then this other person helping her gain experience in a game, which she can achieve with anyone. Theres probably more to say but im sure you get the jist of the idea so please if you can, help me on how to handle this situation before i lose her.
Sorry, I don't get the jist of what you are saying.
Are you talking about playing onlince games or are you using games as a metaphor for life. I suppose I could find an answer that would satisfy both interpretations, but that would be rather forced.
Could you clarify?
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