best friends or more?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i have been best friends with this guy for over 4 years. we have everything in common. we love eachother very much, as friends. we have date other people and helped eachother through breaks ups. we've been there for eachother through family and personal problems. when we hang out it is always just the two of us. and whatever we do, he always insists on paying for both of us. he opens doors for me and treats me like a princess. i've met several of his friends and his mom and brother. he spends a lot of time at my house and my family loves him. in the past few months, we've both become single after going through bad break-ups and i know that i have romantic feelings for him. sometimes it seems like he cares about me that way, too. but other times he seems to only see me as a friend. we've ended up kissing eachother a few times in the past month, but then we both seem to get embarrassed or scared and stop kissing and apologize to eachother for kissing. we always say "i'm sorry. i don't know why i did that." i've told him that i like him, but he never told me how he felt. he just continues to treat me the same way he always has, which is still pretty great. i don't know what to do. how can i find out how he really feels about me, since he won't tell me? please help me!
Do what you two are already good at... talk.
Explain to him that you are developing feelings for him and you wonder how he feels about that. His answer will be positive or neutral. It's unlikely that he would be outright negative.
If he is neutral then ask him specifically how he feels about you.
Make sure he knows that your friendship is the most important thing.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com