Is there any chance?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
hello (sorry english is not my frist leguage). here's the story:
My ex and I had a wordefull time together, she is a 27 year old divorced girland I am 35 tear old single, as in any couple we ad some disagreements but nothing really big.
We were toghether for about 5 month and then we lieved together for another 5 months. 3 Months before we broked up she changed her work , started in a new company, I supported her on this, she also started to go to the gim every day and it was ok. Our time together suffer for this.
Then one day we had a disccusion and she told and the next day she told me she will have a meeting with an old friend ( girl) and to pick her up about 10 pm to talk and fix or thing, but she never call me. The next day I was so angry that I broke with her, she was comming to my house for the next 3 days telling me she was totally in love with me, she asked forgiveness bue i made the mistake of not giving it, she even tell me that if I want she would change work, cut the gim whatever and I did not care ( shame on me).
The next month we did not have contact, and I really missed her, so I start to call her and she told me she did not what she wanted, meybe we are notmeant for each other ahe said.
Anyway we were havifg ocasional dates some of them with other friends till she finally told me she think everything was over, so I didn`t look for her enymore. one month later she emailme to know how i was and a couple of days after we had a coffe together, for the next month we hang out as friends ( i really tried to be her friend) but not more than this, so i finnaly told her that I can not be her friend and that i prefer not see her anymore as a friend, maybe in the future we cna had a second chance but not a friend thing. I know she has beeb hangin out witha male friend of her office which has a girlfriend but it seems she is very interested in him, also she ids dating some other guys, but with this one they talk everyday, have luch together an who knos what else, this have been happenning the last 4 months, 2 in which i tried to be her friend and 2 in which I haven't have any contact.
I know she has been asking or mutual friends how am I ( I was sick last couple of weeks), but she is also telling them she do not want to coem back, she think she was very happy with me but think I am not her type.
I miss her a lot, we were almost engaged, living togehter and she accept that she was very happy, I don't undestrad what happened? why she can not give me one more try? and most important, do you thins there is any chance? what would you recomend me to do?
Thanks in advance
My recommendation is to become her friend again.
This is a good way to rebuild a good relationship built on trust, communication and affection. Once you establish that friendship you have a chance of getting her back.
You are the one who caused this problem, so you are the one who has to take extra steps to fix it. Being her friend is one of those steps.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com