so now what?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have emailed you guys a zillion times about this girl and your advice has helped. Long story short..I befriended a girl at work that has a boyfriend. we became friends and got closer and closer and closer to the point where I have feelings for her. I always assumed she felt the same but couldnt leave the comfort of her boyfriend. She would always talk about how different they were and how he liked things that she didnt and vice versa. He's also done some stupid things to her but I have tried my best to remain friends and not try to worm my in there. I fought it for a long time but I recently gave in and told her how I felt. The response was and is way more positive than i thought. I thought she would be stand offish, back off or not even want to hang out anymore. I told her how I felt and stopped calling her, texting her or emailing her. Now here's the kicker. she has been doing all of those things to me. Calling me, emailing me, texting me like she doesnt want me to go anywhere. Keeping me in her sights or something. Things are not supersolid with her and him so I assuming that she likes me but doesnt feel secure enough yet to leave him for me or anyone for that matter. I thought if I told her all this, she would back off and I could begin to get over her and move on but I cant. Now she is giving me the attention more than before. My question is...what is going on here? is she playing with me? is this genuine? should I move on? This is so hard but you knew that didnt you? thats why I am emailing the best! Thanks in advance!
Sometimes the easiest things are hard.
What you need to do is easy... talk with her. But that can be hard especially with a boyfriend in the background.
Ask her how she feels about you and whether you stand a chance with her. This might get her off the fence one way or the other.
But at least that way you would know where you stand.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com