Dont know whats going on
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Me and my girlfriend broke up a few weeks back probably 3 and stuff was going good what not but the love got lost what not. i could stat the reasons but ya we broke up she says i have to contact her to make this whole thing work and we wont hang out for awhile she calls me up 4 days later asking wanna hang out i said no calls 2 days later wanna hang out i said no 2 days later wanna hang out i said sure, we still sometimes have those i miss u conversatoins how it use to be on the phone when we hang out to we do we still kiss and hold hands hug mess around when we hang out she says were like friends with benefits and she brought up twice now that make up sex she heard is the best im 18 by the way she is as well. she also hinted to wanting me to ask her on a date also i called her up after we hung out once or twice after the breakup saying it hurts me to much to be friends right away so ill call her in a week when i can straighten things out 4 days later calls me up i miss u lets hang out soon. My plan is to just look like were friends for now no kissing, romantic type of stuff, treat her like were going to be that forever friends on the phone or in person now cause it seems when she aint heard from me for awhile she misses me (from what i stated above)but when we hang out and kiss what not that makes her loneliness subside for awhile and she feels as she did in the relationshp so the feelign of getting back toghther never occurs to her cause feelings arent that far but rise alittle so im gonna still talk but like friends so in a sense she will miss me and feelings will get back cause her feeling of love from the kissing and i miss u talks will be gone. Is the above a good idea or no also i was thinking of getting my stuff back from her place to make it seem more a friend i told her i will get my stuff when were sure were not getting back toghher so is good or bad idea, Also plese help with why does she bring up make up sex is great were both virgins we even talked like a week ago about we watned to be each others first so im confused about that one day she is missing me the other she is not so i think the friend thing just might work need ur info though be very helpful i mean is there something im missing here do i bring on more intimacy and say incourage sex or will my plan work whatever u look this is plese be descrictive please anwser the 3 or 4 questons i gave u as best as possible and add anything if u like thanks alot
1. Your idea of talking as friends seems to be working as it keeps drawing her back to you. It would be good if you started talking with her about important things between you... like why she is acting the way she is.
2. Taking your stuff back should be the last step to take when you are sure you aren't going to get back together.
3. Talking about sex seriously is important. Don't leave questions dangling about how she really feels. Ask her straight out. This might be a clue that solves the whole mystery.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com