should i trust him?Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months.We study in the same college.I just get jealous when he talks and laugh with some girls in my class because i think they fancy him.When i ask him to stop talking to them and joking with them he stopped.I also noticed my best friend stares at my boyfriend a lot and tries to attract him. She came to tell me that my boyfriend looks at her.when i asked him he told me thats not true and tell her i want to ask her if i do that. I still noticed my friend looking at him and flirting with him. he told me she is interested with him and i told him i can't put up with this and he agreed that we are going to ask her about her behaviour. My boyfriend told my friend that you are the one that is looking at me and asked her did i ever look at you even once in the class or follow you ? she said no.And she still kept looking at him in the class. I asked my boyfriend to call and tell her infront of me that he is not interested with her and he told her that i don't want your attention and stop looking at me all the time. I felt he cares about me. But there is one of our teachers he once flirted with her infront of me and that teacher flirted back(this is before a month).She is married woman and at that time she said i am married and have got two kids.Anyway i got hurt and told my boyfriend its over. He kept calling me and saying she is our teacher and was just talking to her normally. The second day i was still angry and started talking with one of my male classmates whom my boyfriend knows fancies me.He was very angry and very jealous. That day he never even looked at that teacher and tried to be very nice to me.But that teacher left after just 2 days.But yesterday she started teaching us again and will teach us for a long time. Also other student(lady) started with us yesterday. I saw my boyfriend looking at this new girl and trying to start joking with her. I gave him a look in the class and he understood i am not happy. I also talked to him during the break about this. He stopped talking to her. But he started joking with the teacher(that same teacher ) and flirting as well. He told her i can read hands and the teacher gave him her hand and he touched her hand while reading. It was very painful for me.I know the teacher likes my boyfriend.He is very handsome. My boyfriend came yesterday to my home told me sorry and that he doesn't fancy her but just wanted to see how easy she is with him.He was just playing to see how she is. He then told me he won't behave like that with the teacher again.when i asked him why other guys in the class don't behave like that with girls,they behave themselves and are gentlemen, he told me these girls are the ones who look at him.I think my boyfriend knows he is very handsome.Today my boyfriend didn't come to college, he told me he has an interview.So still i don.t know how he will behave in the class with the teacher. My boyfriend is very handsome and i know other girls want him and are really trying to be with him.They really try very hard and that scares me. I just don't know what to do.He also knows other guys in the class really want me. I am also attractive lady.I also love him a lot and don't want to loose him. What should i do.I am confused . Please advice
If you keep make issues of jealousy, you run the risk of driving him away.
It is part of human nature to flirt a little with the opposite sex. You are trying to make him act unnaturally. There are limits, of course, and it seems you are pulling too tight on the reins.
If you are going to go out with handsome men you have to play the cards that are dealt you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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