re-married and longing for my ex-husband.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Divorced my ex husband 2 years ago, we have 2 children together. I recently re-married to a great man. However, whenever my ex is around I feel "butterflies". I long for him to hold me, I want to be with him. I DO love my current husband but thoughts of being with my childrens father flood my head and I think it would be better if I was back with him. Yes, I rememeber the reasons why we divorced in the first place, but I dont see them being reasons for not re-starting with him. I KNOW I am married now, and in a commited relationship, I respect that and would NEVER do anything to hurt my husband, would never cheat. I dont know if my ex-husband feels the same, and even if he did I dont know if it would be worth the additional pain to divorce again from someone else, not to mention confuse my children. Am I destined to live torn and heartbroken forever? Is this IT for me? Be in love with my ex-husband and stay with my current husband because thats the "right" thing to do?
This may be a passing phase for you.
Give it another year or year and a half to see if those feeling are still there. At least then you know you gave your current husband a good chance.
If, after that time passes, you still are stuck on your ex it would be time to ask him how he feels about it and you can make your decision based on what he says.
It would be a good idea for you to get some professional counseling in the meantime.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com