I want her back and she still wants me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years, we were always really close from the word go but over the last six months she's been so focused on work that she's not only pushed me away but has also pushed her friends away aswell, i have always been there for her in her times of need and this wasn't an exception, i helped her get back in with her friends but she said that a relationship now wasn't right for her and that it was over. We started to argue more over the last 6 months than we ever had before (we don't normally argue we're just happy together) the arguments mainly stemed from the fact that she was always so pulled into her work that we hardly spoke, i was still determined to see it through because i love her so much and she feels the same and i didn't want to just throw it away. Its been about 2 and a half weeks since we broke up officially and she still really loves me, we have kissed on a couple of occassions since the break up and have made love still, when i see her we still have moments when we connect as more than friends, but she says she's made up her mind and she's not changing it (about the breakup). Its really hard for me because i can see she still loves me but she has always let her head rule her heart and the only person who she would ever let help her recognise her feelings was me. I don't know what to do because she's spoken to her friends and has told them she wants to try again but is scared of something and doesn't want to mess me around anymore. Is there any way i can get through to her on an emotional level and help her realise how she's feeling, because every time i see her we always connect. she keeps telling me that she wants to be friends but telling her friends she feels like she might want to try again is there any way to get her to talk to me about it rather than shuting me out about it?
It's only been 2 1/2 weeks, and she probably needs more space.
Since she's been telling her friends that she might want to give it another try why not give her the space to come to that conclusion to the point where she will tell you about it.
Give it another week and a half and if nothing has changed then ask her why she is telling her friends one thing and you another.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com