Where to go now?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I'll try and keep this short, I've gotten advice from this site before and it was very usefull. Since then I've had and lost a relationship, but it was fun while it lasted and thats thanks to romanceclass.
The current situation is this.
I went on holiday with my sister and her friends last year, and seemed to hit it off with a particular friend of my sister. Shes funny, smart and great looking, I'm 23, shes 25, we seemed to click. But that was the end of it. Recently she invited me (and my sister) on a holiday of hers, though my sister couldnt go so it was me, her and her friends. This is where the confusing part starts.
We were camping in the middle of a field, it was cold, so we were all huddled together for warmth. We ended up sleeping together the last two nights of the holiday. By sleeping I mean actual sleeping and not anything more. So we slept in each others arms for the last two nights of the holiday, but I wasnt sure whether I was the hot water bottle or somthing more. On the last day, I asked her that very question. To cut a long story slightly shorter, we are going out on a date next weekend. But heres where I kind of fall over myself and am not sure what to do.
I'm a very shy guy, and suffer from an anxiety disorder that I take medication for. I havent told her this, but I'm wondering at what point should I mention it? Since shes a friend of my sister and has met my family (and I hers, though that was prior to me asking her out), I want to be the one to tell her and not have it slip out from my family. It should be said we've agreed to keep things quiet from our familys before we both know where things are headed, as we dont want the whole 20 questions thing considering we did sort of start out friends.
Also, how often should we be in contact? She lives quite far away from me, long distance sort of thing. So far since coming back from holiday (earlier this week), we've spoken to each other every night on the phone, and a couple of text messages during the day. I dont want to seem like a stalker, but dont want to be that guy that never phones and just expects her to make all the effort. I dont want to constantly barrage her with text mesages and phone calls either, as thats just as bad.
I know thats quite garbled and all over the place, so I apolgise. Any help in the matter would be greatly apprieciated.
Get your first date under your belt before telling her about your medications.
If the date goes well, you can casually let her know... don't make a big deal out of it because it isn't a big deal.
Ask her how she feels about the amount and duration of phone calls. She may be just fine with things are or she may want to lessen or increase the calls.
Hope things go well for you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com