Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I dont know if my situation is common for many to fall through. I hope I am not alone. Its been almost two years since the breakup of my ex and i. The thing is that I did date, but not seriously until recently. I got together with a new person just barely a month ago. I was ready for a relationship. I love her alot and everything is great. I realized that I love my ex still. There has been no contact whatsoever. I did try to talk to her for some closure but it was unsuccessful, so I tried to take that as my closure as is. But I realized that you cannot really have closure on someone you still love. I love my gf now but I love my ex still. Is this wrong? I mean, am I doing something wrong? I am not the type that is to be unfaithful. Ive been honest all my life. I just found this so hard to walk through. Let me know if what I am situated in is normal or not? Am I alone like this? WHy does this happen?
It is not uncommone for someone to bond with another so strongly.
Especially since you didn't have good closure, your feelings are still somewhat attached to your ex.
Although it may be difficult, you should explain your feelings to your new g/f and ask her for advice and help on the situation.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com