Jealous and he is far away
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Here is my situation, my husband is in the military and when we were dating he was cheating on me and talking to other women. I did not find out until the end when we were about to get married, though I found out he was talking to other females. A few months AFTER we got married he admitted he had cheated on me on one occasion. Now we have been married for one year and he is back to the place where he cheated on me I fear he will do it again since he is so far away. Everytime he talks to me I think he hangs up and goes somewhere or if he doesnt call me I think he is doing something. We fight constantly almost everyday we always hang up not upset but it is getting tiring for me. I try to understand him but sometimes he just looks for reasons to fight with me. He tells me he loves me and not to worry that is fine but I just dont believe ANYTHING he tells me. I trusted him 100% but when he cheated on me it was a blow to my self esteem and my trust toward him. He used to lie to me ALL THE TIME. He says things are different now we are married but I just do not believe him. What can I do to overcome it?
You don't trust him.
And looking at the past you have good reason. But he may have changed his ways now that you are married. My advice is to trust him and put away those jealous, untrusting feelings.
Trust is one of the most important aspects of a relationship and without it the relationship will fail or be very bad.
Take a look at the website which is about trust:
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com