how to show i care
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Ok, a long time ago when i met this new girl i immediately got with her as her friends told me she really liked me.I met her friends on the first date and she was crazy over me (she told me, and showed it when kissing, she would always tell me if i liked another girl and her friends would tell me she thought i didnt like her). So a short time later she ended it. She said we should maybe get back together later, and it was fast for her. That is true as we hardly new each other. She was always really shy i would make all the moves. She would still act as if we where together though. I just decided to ignore her and in response she ignored me to and would hit on my close friend 24-7 (who ironically now is with her best friend). One day sudenly last month. She sudennly became slighlty much more open and complained that i have forgoten her. She would constantly flirt with me online and stare at me all the time at skool but never talk to me, and when i would approach or try to talk to her. She had another guy so i didnt know how to react and felt hurt. We didnt speak face to face a lot. Last week after a long time of not seeing each other (due to holiday)i met with her in a cab and she hit on me really badly. Touching me starrng showing interest, enthusiasm and that stuff. In the end i didnt kiss her good bye so she came up to me and put her cheak on my face so i could kiss her. From the next day she would ignore me all the time and seem as beeing busy 24/7 and not beeing able to talk to me. She showed enthusiasm but not as much. Maybe its becos i havent shown i care for her that much , but thats only becos i got hurt. However my firend told me she broke up with her ex teh day before and really did not like him much. Now she always ignores me but stares at me and sort of hints me to approach her. But the second i get there she seems uninterested. What should i do to show her i care, and does she really care for me or is she just playing with me.
You are going to have to find a way to communicate with her.
Do it on the phone, in person, online, or by note. Let her know that you care for her and ask her how she feels about you. After the cab incident, she probably doesn't know that you care and is hesitant to pay attention to you.
You need to take a more active role in the relationship or she will be gone again.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com