he loves me BUT how?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I met this asian guy on the Net and we liked each other from the start we started talking on the phone for hours and finally we met after a month or so. The romance was already started and he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. He is so sweet and romantic. We are now dating from 2 months, sex is great and everything about him…I am really into him He is the most amazing guy I have ever had and I think I am in love or falling for him…
He talks about love future dreams…He writes me poems and from his words he sounds like I am his soulmate and he loves. I feel like I want this yes I feel its right…. but…. Every time there is something that holds me back and it is becoming so frustrating for me and I guess for him too.
I am damn scared that this is not going to work out I am scared that I will have my heart broken again.
Its him that confuses me continuously and just when I get relaxed about it he comes out with something that makes my mind spin round in a circle of question and doubts which drives me crazy.
Last important relationship I had 2 years ago had been traumatic, he also was asian and he tired my heart to peaces.
This guy now he is very different he is honest and caring, he is the perfect boyfriend.
But doubts started to come when he talked to me about his religion and I was about to leave him because of the marriage issue. Now I decided not to coz I really care about him and I though love should be unconditional and not based on what we want. He said that if its love nothing can stop us from getting married.
I said lets take it easy and see how it goes. He mention marriage and having kids several times an for some reason it freaks me out because this is also my dream and I do not want to be deluded, Im starting to believe that he just say it but don’t really mean it. All he means is that he wants to get married.
Thinking that he is just a dreamer and likes to talk about the future is making me so insecure.
This morning while I was kissing goodbye he told me he loves me but then he added
“I know it’s not the love you think.” I just looked at him and said shut up and walked off before late for work.
Now this thing is driving me mad. What is that supposed to mean.
Every day I am thinking to leave him and I’m starting to believe that is what I probably should do. Maybe its too late to step back I mean it still will hurt but at least I will keep on living my life and find The One.
I don’t want to believe in it if it’s not real I rather take it all away.
I know he loves me but how does he love me? I don’t know I am so confused and I feel like I want to run away and forget about him.
Damn why English people use the world Love so easily…it confuses me so much. Help me! please give me an advice what shall I do? What should I say to him? How can I understand what he really feels for me?
PS. Forgive any mistake I am not English.
What if he is the One?
You've only been dating for two months. You need more time to find out if you and he are going to grow close enough to last. You both need to talk much more about how you feel and what you want.
Give this more time and see how you feel after six months. Perhaps by then you can make a better judgement.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com