why do i worry
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
how do i get over the fact that when my g/f and i go out i feel like every man is checking her out, or i need to defend her honor. What can i do to also reassure myself that she is not going anywhere, because she loves me and tells me this all the time. I think because i got cheated on in a social environment before that i am not comfortable with large crowds and situations i can not control. We want to get married, but even knowing that i cant help the thoughts of her finding someone else and falling for them out of my head.
Yes, it does sound like control is a problem.
You can't control life and you can't control people in your life. It will only give you heartache and grief if you can't get the upper hand on this control issue.
Trust is a good first step toward making a strong relationship. Without trust, mole hills are made into mountains. Work hard to learn to trust her. Further discussions of a gentle and caring nature are in order.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com