How do I ask her out?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I'll try to be as brief as possible.
I'm a 21 years old. A good friend of mine use to date this girl. They were going out together for a month or so but I know he did it for the physical part of the relationship mostly. We (us three) went out together a couple of times a year ago and we had lots of fun. Back then I felt nothing but I met her a month ago(I was with my friend again) and something just clicked. She is not exactly attractive or at least not that much but still I fell for her like a rock.The way she behaves and the way she talks to me *sigh*. Long story short...
Now I am facing two major problems:
1. How do I ask her out?
2. The second one is a bit more complicated...
This friend of mine is...lets just say he has endless resources. He wears cool clothes,has a car, owns floor in a huge house, cool furniture, top of the line tv/dvd/pc/blah blah - the works. I on the other hand am a low life - the complete opposite. I live in a crappy flat and...well you get the picture.
People just keep on saying that the looks don't matter or at least not after the first ten minutes. Well lets get real. I mean forget the looks but sooner or later I'll have to invite that girl in my so-called home. How will I be able to do that? No one ever mentions the fact that us poor chaps have to face more than one obstacle to get into a relationship.
And again my first question: how do I ask her out? All this poverty has build up on me and it seems it affects my selfesteem and confidence. I know my friend won't mind at all so that will not be an issue. Still I need his help to get to her because I have no phone number or anything. Besides I can't just call and say "Hey you remember me? Wanna hang out sometime? Go to a movie or something..."
Some more info on me:
I think I am quite fun guy to hang out with. The problem is that sometimes my "shy-o-meter" hits the ceiling and I swallow my tongue. The idea of asking my friend to set me up makes my skin turn pale and it actually freaks me out.
I don't suppose there is a shot you can get in the nearest hospital for that but any tips or hints would be greatly appriciated.
Thank you in advance.
(Beg your forgiveness for all the mistakes permitted - I lost me dictionary)
Your major problem is being shy.
Everything else flows from that.
See a professional counselor if you can, you can get help there.
Go to http://www.google.com/ and search SHYNESS CURE
There are thousands of webpages with advice on this subject. Read any that look interesting to you. You will have to make a significant effort to overcome you shyness and it will not come easily or quickly.
Practice as much as you can with women. As far as asking this girl out... get her phone number from your friend, call her and ask her if she wants to hang out or go to a movie.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com