Am I Jelous For No Reason?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I get very jelous or i feel neglected when ever my girlfriend sees her highschool friends because I feel she appreciates their precence way more than mine because she could totaly forget that im there and i will find myself just sitting alone while she is having the conversation of her life, and it makes me feel so insignificant. I dont like those people, they would not be the type of friends I would have, and i guess it frustrates me because I dont like to be around them and I dont like the way she acts when they are around. My point is I feel that I have to compete against these people for her attention, and I feel powerless. It hasnt been like this in all my relationships I do get along with my ex's friends but I just have nothing in common with these people. I guess I see it as she should be over the whole highschool thing and grow out of that. So my question is am I being too over the top, and if I am how can I stop, or should I move on to someone who I may have more in common with that doesnt change her personality when she is around her friends?
Friends are friends wherever they came from.
You and your g/f need to figure out a compromise on how often she can see her high school friends. And, she needs to learn how to include you in the conversation. You need to learn to join in the conversation no mattere how much you find it boring.
If you two aren't willing to do these things then it is time to look for someone new.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com