accept or not
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I am a sensitive man and recently i find that the girl i like have one or a few boyfriends before At first i do not know but after that my friends told me that she have so i do not know weather to continue to like her or not because i know i will feel uncomfortable if i think of something like her ex have touch her or kiss her or sharing food or drink with her and all that i cannot accept my women to have close action with other man but i was unable to forget her i really like her but i do no know weather her ex have do all that kind of thing which i mention earily on with her.I try to find out but i cannot because i do not know her Sometime i try to forget her but i can't sometime i try to accept i can but if i think of all that i will start to feel uncomfortable again.You see my problem if i continue to like her i will feel uncomfortable but if i stop i will feel miserable and i can't stop thinking ablout her too. I just want a girl that i like and have a long term relationship that all i am not just picking up girl so i am strict about this.i know she is not a girl that firlt but sometime when i saw her talking to her male classmate i feel jealous and helpless i want to stop but i can't.Now i do not know weather to continue to like her because i do not know weather she have any close action with her ex before i need your advice serious please help me.
You are too jealous.
Every girl will have a past history with boys and you need to learn to accept that. In fact you need to rejoice in it. You want your girlfriend to be a happy, normal person. You don't want to take away her life because of your jealousies. Her life is her life and it can't and shouldn't be changed.
If you don't change your jealous ways it will bother you in all your future relationships. Do you want a girl who will be faithful to you? Then you must trust her.
Maybe you are too shy about meeting this girl so you are using this jealousy as a reason not to approach her. If you think that might be true then get up your courage and get near to her. Think, everything you do today will influence how your future days will be.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com