I don't know what to think
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi I am writing to you again about my ex. Well we are still not dating at the moment but I am so confused I just can't stand it anymore. My ex talks to this other girl that I know and I know for a fact that they are just friends but he always tells me how they like each other and all that, and when I say well thats good and support him he will tell me that he was just trying to make ne jealous.! He is always telling me that he does things with other girls then tell me he was trying to make me mad. I mean whats the deal with that he already told me he doesn't want to ever be with me again so why put the extra effort into making me upset?
I was trying to be friends with him cause he means so much to me. He calls me almost everyday, takes me out to eat at least 3 days out of the week and comes to my house all the time. He will call me to see how I am feeling and say how he misses me and says "kisses". After doing all that like 6 hours later he seems like he couldn't be bothered with me.
I also haven't said the words "I Love You" to him since we broke up about 2 months ago. So what threw ne off was the other morning he sent me a text message saying Goodmorning and how he hoped I was feeling much better so I replied telling him thank you for caring. About 5 mins later he sent me another msg saying "Love you" He also hasn't said those words to me since breaking up. So I messaged him back saying that I loves him too. And the text in it he said "thanks that made me feel so much better".
Like I said I care about him and would do anything for him.
He is all I have been thinking about lately. But I am still stuck he says he doesnt want to be with me but then hes always taking me out and wanting me to go places with him. He still tries to be physical with me but I have been pulling back lately I told him that friends shouldn't be like that.
I would really like your opinion about this situation
Its very confusing from my point of view!
It's sometimes impossible to figure out what is going on in someone else's mind.
He is showing every sign of wanting to be your boyfriend, but apparently doesn't want to be.
Have a long, caring, trusting and honest talk with him and explain to him what you told me. Ask him point blank, but in a nice way, if he just wants you for sex. Ask him if he feels there is any hope of you two getting back together again.
Try to prepare a list of thoughts you want to discuss and put them in some logically order. Nothing will go exactly as you plan, but it's good to have some plan.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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