Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
how do I get back at my ex and make him want to go back out with me at the same time
LOL that is too funny :) OK, first. If you are out to harm someone, that is NOT someone you should date. Being a date with someone means you care completely about them, want them to be happy, want to be happy with them, want to shield them from pain in any way you can. If you can even harbor the idea of *causing* that person pain, you should not be anywhere near them. That is about as opposite as you can get in who you should date.
And second, you can NEVER make someone go out with you. Because, again, dating is about two people who actively want to be with each other. If the only reason someone is with you is that you TRICKED them into being with you, the relationship will collapse in painful agony very quickly. Which will probably hurt you far more than it hurts him.
I would really recommend someone that you *care for* and who cares for you too. I'm sure there are guys out there who would be great partners for you, if you took a chance and looked for them. While revenge may seem like a fun thing, in the end the ability you harbor to actively harm others becomes a part of you, and it really damages your ability to enjoy life. Which means, in the end, it causes you far more harm than it ever causes him. Think of movies you watch where the bad guys enjoys hurting others. He's rarely a happy person, and the only way he can see more joy is to keep hurting more people.
-- from Jenn
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