oy vey am i confused.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
okay so i havent talked to you in atleast 2 months.i found out through a friend that my ex had sex with this guy that she had a crush on and when i found out it was like ew for me but it didnt hurt she was telling people that i was being creepy because i was talking to her and trying to hang out with her so she was saying all these things i decided i shoud stop talking to her. i stopped talking to her for about week and i didnt really say anything to her and then one our best friends died. and i had to talk to her. obviously. and things were fine between us and then after the funeral we stopped talking again. i didnt really talk to her much other then when i'd see her at school and i would say hey how are you blah blah as we passed eachother. not untill one day i was walking alone coming back from the cafeteria and i saw her sitting alone so i went to see why and we talked for about 45 minutes i asked how she felt about the whole having sex thing and she told me she felt horrible and used and hated herself forever doing that and this was about 3 weeks ago. and the rest of the week was the normal 3 minutes of talking while walking by. and then two sundays ago she called me. and we talked for almost an hour and when i was getting off the phone she was getting mad at me. so i thought that it was just a nothing thing she just thought of me and called me. next on monday she texts me saying something i cant really remember. then tuesday she text me like 6 times saying where are you blah blah im trying to call you i need to talk to you. i wasnt ignoring her i just dont get cell service in my room. and the next morning i ask her." hey what was with last night" her friend was standing there. and she was looked at me and said i dont know i just needed you and really wouldnt tell me why. but then later i asked her when she was alone and she told me she was lonely and had no one to talk to but she could have called her friends. that was weds. that night again she calls and this time we made plans to hang out on sunday and watch movies. so again she calls on thrusday and we have just a nothing coversation. on sunday we hangout and we watch the movies and we arent very close but when i was leaving she told me she wanted to stay longer untill 10 so i did. when i was leaving for the second time she wanted me to give her a hug. which she never wants me to so i did. she actually gets mad sometimes when i give her a hug. we didnt get to finish our third movie so i was like well we can watch it nextweekend and she said she didnt wanna wait till then so we decided that tueday would be the best for us.on monday night she called me and we talked for a little.so i go over tuesday and she sits on the same couch as me and gives me a couple hugs and i was there for a little while. and like she was a little closer to me that time. but she did the samewhen i was leaving she gave me a hug goodbye. and my question is what am i supposed to tink we broke up almost four months ago and at the beginning she didnt want to have anything to do with me and then out of the blue she is calling me and is making plans with me and hugging me. what am i supposed to think? and i miss her and want to tell her but i dont want her to tell people im creepy again like she did before. so please tell me what you think i should do
Looks like she needs your friendship again.
Tell her that you don't want her to tell people that you are creepy again.
You seem to like her and what's wrong with starting up a friendship again?
My advice is to give it another chance and hope for the best.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com