My ex is over jealous of my ex wife??
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I have been with my ex for a year and a half and she broke it off with me recently. Our recurring major problems was that she always thought I allowed my ex wife to manipulate me via my son, which is simply not true. At the start I changed everything to be with her, to the point of making my son's mother park at the end of the driveway to pick him up rather than knock on the door, because she got so over protective and jealous she didnt want my ex wife near the house. I have had a year and a half of it and often when she starts up about my ex wife (bringing her into an unrelated conversation) I cant help but react badly, as Im tired of being accused of revering her, recently I tried to re-establish my boundaries by allowing my ex wife to knock on the door to pick my son up and all hell broke loose. Now my ex keeps touting these types of things as reasons she cant be with me while I keep begging and pleading with her to not give up on us. Shes always so full of anger and just keeps giving me reasons (to do with ex wife) why she cant be with me, but wont cut contact off with me and occasionally admits to still loving me. Even if I can get her to have a nice couple of hours with me (even though we are technically split), and sometimes she is affectionate, she brings up something out of the blue after a couple hours that shes mad about and turns back to anger. I dont understand this behaviour, flipping between nice and then mostly angry all the time. I keep apologizing etc and am way too needy I know, which i must change, but how do I get her back when I am apologizing even for things I dont feel are wrong or my fault? If I drastically reduce my constant calls and texts etc, will her anger subside or is it too late??
She needs someone to control and walk on... and that's you.
There is no reason for her excessive anger at your ex, especially when there is a child around.
It's time for you to take a firm stance with her even if it provokes anger from her. If she gets angry, tell her to leave.
This may greatly disrupt your relationship once she realizes you won't let her walk all over you anymore. But, my advice is that you and your boy would be a lot better off without her bubbling anger in the house.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com