I feel horrible
Visitor's Question from a unknown year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months. I started dating him right after my ex broke up with me. I was a little apathetic as a result.
"Stephen" is kind and adoring, but I didn't see that until now. I saw him as obsessive and I knew that the relationship was doomed. I talked to my good friends about how I didn't really feel comfortable being in a relationship where two people were on such a different calibur. I started flirting with a friend of a friend and one day we planned to go to washington dc. I figured that we would go see the sites and it would be pretty innocent. Boy, was I naive.
I told Stephen that i was going with "David" and he trusted me totally, because I'm usually a very honest person. The guy came to pick me up and I almost automatically realized that he really wasn't into me and I wasn't into him either. The day went okay. Saw some exhibits and whatnot, but at the end of the night he saw that I was getting quiet and started hitting on me. He reached over and grabbed my hand and started massaging my thighs. I let him and we ended up doing some things that I'm not so proud of. I don't know why I did it because I didn't even like the guy. I came inside and cried my eyes out.
yesterday when I was with Stephen, I planned to tell him everything and break up with him because I wasn't good enough. When he got there to pick me up, I realized that I felt a connection that I never felt before. Now I don't know what to do. What should I do? I know he deserves to know and I don't deserve to be with him, but I don't want things to end. I want to be with him. Once again I am just being selfish. This is the first time I've ever cheated on a partner. I don't plan on doing it again. Is there any way to just write this off and pretend it never happened? Can I do that if I make a promise to myself to never do it again and take care of Stephen from now on? I really regret it and wish I'd never done it. Please help.
Yes you can write it off and pretend it never happened.
You have only been going out with your boyfriend for two months so you haven't broken a long term committment.
Of course the right thing to do is to tell him and let the chips fall where they may. And he may find out anyway.
To me, one mistake can be forgiven and forgotten... but don't let it evere happen again or you may find yourself in a pattern.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com