I am losted and confused!!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Ok so me and my ex were going out for almost three years and had both good times and bad times. But we both really loved each other. We would fight over stupid stuff and things that shouldnít have mattered. So near the end of November she calls me and tells me we should break up and she just said she doesnít feel the same for me and she can see us going out in the future but now she just wants to be friends. So I was heart broken and I said ok but keep asking her when you think were going to go out again, basically pushing her back even more, at the time I knew its wasnít the right thing but its really hard to just become friends. I told her I would try and then I said I couldnít be friends right now because it was to hard to do so and this was in December and she cried on the phone. Then I called her after a week and said ill try my hardest to be just friends. She came over one day and we talking about stuff and we feel asleep together. After talking to her you can tell she still cares about me but she says she doesnít feel the same way about me. So now were just talking 1-2 a week and on Christmas she calls me out of no where and says she really misses me and I tell her the same. During this whole time she said we would get back together but not any time soon. During the start of January we get into a little fight and later that week she says we should talk anymore. And that she doesnít see us going out again in the future. I was really hurt by this and didnít know what to think. She was getting really upset that I couldnít just be her friend. During these two months we kissed about 10 times and we would always tell each other no more. So after telling me we shouldnít talk anymore she tells me that she is talking to this guy and she likes him and she said she started to like him after we broke up. See calls me a week later on my cell near the start off feb or end of jan and asking how I was, you can tell she had just been crying and she was sad about something. I say Iím ok I guess and we say bye. Then a week later I was at me friendís house and she calls me at 1:45am but I was sleeping so I didnít get to talk to her. Later that week see calls me in the morning telling me she loves me, and she misses me, and she knows Iím her soul mate, and her first true love but things arenít right for us right now, and ill always have a part in her heart that no one can get to.talking to eachother like we were goin out,she was crying and so was I . And tells me what she wants to do on are first date back together. She also said she has never felt this way about someone after she has broken up with them. And she has a good feeling about us getting back together. She said I just had to call you and tell you that. So two weeks go by and Iím so confused so I write basically a good bye note telling her how I feel about her and how she has confused me and telling her thanks for everything and I hope one day we could start to be friends. I give it to her cousin and she read it to her on the phone and they both started to cry. She calls me during school and tells me that she loves me but I gotta stop with the letters. She said that she shouldnít have called last week and said all that but she meant it. She said she loves me and still thinks Iím her soul mate but things arenít right now and still keeps my picture up in her room. Her parents love me and always ask about me too. Then I ask her how you can like someone and feel this way about me. She says he is a really nice guy and she just likes talking to him to help stop think about me. I tell her youíre probably going to get close to him and introduce him to your parents and she said sheís not going to do that and doesnít want that and its doesnít come close to me and her. She tells me to get over her and when she comes back if Iím with someone else she will wait for me. So we say goodbye and I love you and ill miss you, have not talked in 3 weeks. So what is going on with this situation and what should I do. srry for it being so long.
She is all over the place.
No wonder you are confused and she must be too.
You are doing the right thing by leaving her alone. You both need a lot of time to think this over and hopefully come to a mutually comfortable conclusion.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com