How Can I Stop This Pain?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
alrite wel basically i am a 16 yr old girl, and me nd my bf broke up bout 6 weeks ago. It was a completely mutual decision, wich i totally regretted instantly. I later found out that he had cheated on me with my best fwend n neitha had tld me. I now dont speak to her at all. This hurt me more then anything, and just looking at her makes me feel physically sick. However, my ex bf is basically my best fwend. I no its rong of me to tlk to him n not her, bt i love him too much to lose him. The thing is i'v still been sleeping wit him for the past 6 weeks, because i fort it wud make him love me. i know this snds so stupid, n i no its stupid, but i honestly believe that. We had tlkd bout it n he sed he stil loves me bt doesnt want a gf coz of exams n stuff. bt we had arranged not to get wit nebody else or nethin. But last nite he went to a party n he did get with sumone. And once agen i am hurt. All he eva does is hurt me, n i dont want to love him anymre. I av tried EVRYTING to get over him, n none of it works. I cant jst blank him out of my life bcoz i av to c him evryday at skl. I want to be able to be his best fwend, coz i need him to be my best fwend, bt i dnt want to love him. Iv tried tlkin to him n he jst gets angry. I c him tlkin to anova girl n i feel sick. I constantly cry n tink im gna puke, n now my mates r mad at me for not tlkin to the girl he cheated on me wit. i dnt no wat to do. im at my wits end. u av to help me plz
It seems you are friends with benefits right now.
You said you want to be just friends but he gets angry when you say that.
You've got to decide which it will be and don't worry about him getting angry.
He can't have everything he wants.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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