Trust issue webpageVisitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I'd been seeing this guy for a month and things were great but then one day he suddenly became sick and I didn't believe him so I got upset with him. This sounds immature but I have so many times been given the run around by guys that I thought this guy was doing the same thing to me. I went so far as to break up with this guy because he got "sick" and didn't want to come see me and plus it was Valentine's Day and I was mad we had to cancel dinner plans. I realized the error of my ways and have tried to apologize and reassure him I am working on my trust issues and he said he needs time to think things over. My question is do I wait and if so for how long or should I move on? Most importantly, how do I learn to trust again? Thank you for any advice.
This another response to your question... and that is to take a look at this webpage which seems very good: http://www.coping.org/growth/trust.htm
Good luck! George
Trust is probably learned at home at an early age.
If not, then it can be harmed by a few bad experiences with the opposite sex.
You seem to have a bad case of not trusting. One problem with that is that when you don't trust someone they feel untrusted and end up disappointing you. If you had trusted them they might have made you happy.
Besides seeing a professional counselor (which I recommend if you can do it) the next chance you get make trust your highest priority in your next relationship. Keep telling yourself that you trust them and you probably will.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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