I still love him very much
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Hi, me again, my weekly question. I must seem like one confused girl. Last Fri. at the bowling aley I did not get there until like 9:30 p.m. and my ex was there. He had a friend in town and whenever that guy is around, my ex thinks he has to act like a man so he wasn't really flirting with me. Any way, at around 10:30 the girl he was going to the dance with showed up and after I stood there and told her (he was listening) about a guy I "kind of like" (remember, 2 weeks ago I told my ex that I will never get over him and I meant it), he started putting his arm abound this girl, etc. He gave her a really long hug good bye but gave me a pretty long one, too. My mom gave her a ride home and she promised me she would never go out with him, that she did not like him like that and that they were only going to the dance the next night as friends. Well, the next night at the dance he was all over her, hugging her, cuddling with her, etc. I was there with another guy (as friends only), though, and I noticed that when we were dancing and my ex and his date were dancing right next to us, he was dancing with her but he was looking at me through the whole dance. Every time my date and I would dance any where near where he was sitting, he would be watching me. His date, who by the way is a friend of mine, (that is why I don't want her to date him, it would ruin our friendship), said he just all of a sudden out of the blue looked at us and said "they would not be good together". My friends think he was jealous of my being there with another guy and was trying to make me jealous. I know that he really does like this other girl and is probably going to ask her out, but I think in his heart that he still loves me very much, he just doesn't think we should be together right now. I don't know if I should fight for him or just forget about him for now and hope that we can try our relationship again in the future. I am tired of all of this drama and am tired of feeling hurt. You will probably need to read all of my past e-mails to tell me what you think about his one. Thank you so much for all your advice - I am trying to follow it.
He is acting immaturely.
He is not being open and honest with you but instead puts you through the drama you are getting tired of.
I agree with your idea of forgetting about him for now. If he really cares about you and tries to get back with you then you should demand that he answer questions about his behavior.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com